On a small world…

… a big shout out to United States, United Kingdom, Brasil, Canada, Australia, Singapore, Germany, Philippines, Spain, Barbados, Hong Kong, India, Mexico, Malaysia, Argentina, Italy, France, Sweden, Vietnam, Chile, Japan, Indonesia, China, Thailand, United Arab Emirates, Switzerland, South Africa, Denmark, Finland, Colombia, Netherlands, New Zealand, Russian Federation, Nigeria, Korea, Pakistan, Iceland, Moldova, Mauritius, Portugal, Botswana, Taiwan, Peru Uganda, Suriname, Greece, Costa Rica, Bangladesh, Zimbabwe, Belgium, Austria, Honduras, Iraq, Latvia, Cambodia, Saint Vincent and the Grenadines, Croatia, Fiji, Cyprus, Venezuela, Egypt, Ukraine, Lesotho, Slovenia, Poland, Kuwait, Haiti, Bulgaria, Federated States of Micronesia

I’m humbled that anyone reads my blog, but who knew it was happening all over the world.



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On things I want my kids to know and/or remember 💬

Above all, always love. Even the annoying coworker, friend, and family member. Also, love your enemies. No one should be exempt from your love. As you rise in the morning remember it’s your job to love. This, above all else.

The rest is in no particular order…

Never be within a 20 mile radius from your siblings and declare you are too tired to visit.

No matter your circumstances, always choose to believe that God is good and there will be a day when He sorts it all out. Do not become bitter. Refer back to the first paragraph.

Never wait for someone to bring you flowers. Plant your own garden. Think about it. I see each of you planting beautiful gardens.

If someone doesn’t have a smile, give them yours.

In finances, as Shakespeare’s King Lear advised, “Have more than thou showest.”

Promise only what you can deliver. Then deliver more than you promise.

Forgiveness is the answer to carrying a grudge.

As Dale Carnegie wrote: “You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming genuinely interested in others than you can in 2 years by trying to get people interested in you.

The only thing that ever sat its way to success was a hen.

Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.

When driving, do not refer to discourteous drivers as idiots, like I do. Just forget it and drive on.

Do for others with no expectation in return. We should all plant some trees we will never sit under.

Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb as that’s where the fruit is.

A great man shows his greatness by how he treats the little man.

When you are angry or frustrated, what comes out will be a good indication of what you are made of.

True wealth is what you are, not what you have.

You can consider yourself a good manager when you get superior work from average people.

Master enemies, not by force, but by forgiveness.

When we remember how hard it is to change ourselves we will begin to understand what little chance we have of changing others.

Good manners sometimes means putting up with other’s bad manners.

Remember, the big print giveth and the small print taketh away. This should be well ingrained since your Dad is a lawyer.

Enjoy being smarter than others–just don’t tell them so.

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. Your father does such a good job of that.

Doing something for others is a powerful contributor to health and long life.

To change much, change your attitude.

Always laugh. Even when it’s inappropriate.

Put an uncommon touch on a most common task.

“By swallowing evil words unsaid, no one has ever harmed his stomach.” Winston Churchill

Only God is in a position to look down on anyone.

Fill your time and space with joy.

Religion is what you do when the sermon is over.

Compliment someone every day.

Do not inhibit your happiness with judgement of others, negative thoughts, or envy.

Good character is built piece by piece via thought, choice, and courage. I’m proud of your’s.

“He has achieved success who has worked well, laughed often and loved much.” Elbert Hubbard. So true.

If someone remembers your outfit and not your smile, you didn’t smile enough.

The best way to be happy is to make others happy.

Always know the name of the janitor.

When problems cease, so do opportunities. So welcome them.

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.

I’m not sure why I’m telling you all this. You have each been my teacher. Maybe I learned most all this from you. I love you so.

Ciao for now 💛💙💜

*wisdom over time of mine and others – credit given when known


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Is pacifism for when “life happens”? A response to Rachel Held Evans


On pacifism when life happens

Originally posted on Thinking Pacifism:

Ted Grimsrud—September 29, 2014

From time to time, I like to return to the core motivation that led me to start this blog. This blog is a place to think and converse about pacifism. I always wish I could find more time and energy to write, because I am thinking about pacifism all the time. But when I look back, I see that I have managed to squeeze out quite a few words over the past nearly four years—and have probably repeated myself numerous times.

To keep my thinking current, I like to write posts when I can where I articulate convictions off the top of my head without going back to what I have written before. This is how I think about pacifism now. The other day, blogger extraordinaire Rachel Held Evans (who I greatly admire) wrote a short comment on Facebook that asked some hard questions about pacifism. These…

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On Spanking… or not.

“While a violent expression of guidance could be gleaned from Proverbs 13:24, it is not in line with New Testament teaching.” a wonderful article by Kurt Willems

When Violence Hits Home: “sparing the rod,” spanking, & peaceful parenting

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A Canadian’s View On Our Disrespect Of President Obama’s Presidency

Originally posted on The Fifth Column:


America – He’s Your President for Goodness Sake!

By William Thomas

There was a time not so long ago when Americans, regardless of their political stripes, rallied round their president. Once elected, the man who won the White House was no longer viewed as a republican or democrat, but the President of the United States. The oath of office was taken, the wagons were circled around the country’s borders and it was America versus the rest of the world with the president of all the people at the helm.

Suddenly President Barack Obama, with the potential to become an exceptional president has become the glaring exception to that unwritten, patriotic rule.

Four days before President Obama’s inauguration, before he officially took charge of the American government, Rush Limbaugh boasted publicly that he hoped the president would fail. Of course, when the president fails the country flounders. Wishing harm upon…

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The Patriotic God: A Review of “Our Great Big American God” by Matthew Paul Turner


I really like your critique. It seems balanced. I have read all of MPT’s books (loved them all) and wasn’t so sure I wanted to add another to my pile, but I’m intrigued now. Behind all that snark is a caring, compassionate Christian to whom I’ll always owe a debt of gratitude.

Originally posted on Dangerous Hope:

Having the honor of being Facebook friends with the preeminent progressive Christian blogger and Evangelical culture critic Matthew Paul Turner, I ran across a posting of his one day which spoke of his upcoming book “Our Great Big American God.”  He was offering people who are bloggers, critics or other culture influencers a free copy of his book for them to review.  I messaged him.  He was gracious enough to send me a copy even though I don’t know if I fit any of the aforementioned categories.  I do my best impersonation of a blogger and critic.

As mentioned Turner (MPT) has a built-in reputation of being a more “liberal” Christian.  I would not have that designation (although I freely admit that the terms “conservative” and “liberal” are loaded terms and we all should talk more specifically about what we believe on the issues).  As a matter of fact, I have responded to MPT…

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Before Robin Williams Shows Up in Your Sermon, Think Again


A lot to think about here. My husband represents people with mental health issues. It’s pervasive and families are struggling.

Originally posted on Allen White's Blog:

By Allen White robin williams

Most people are well aware of actor Robin Williams’ passing this week. The public outpouring from every sector is tremendous. This man touched a lot of people’s lives. Whether they embraced him as Mork from Ork, or “Captain, my captain,” or a DJ in Vietnam, or a loveable, hope-inspiring doctor in Patch Adams, Robin Williams connected deeply in a lighthearted way with such a broad cross section of people. His inner child was his outer adult, which shows bravery most of us lack. But, pastor, before Robin Williams appears in your sermon, here are a few things to consider:

1. Suicide has had a Personal Effect on Your Congregation.

Somehow, someway, everyone’s lives are touched by suicide. For me, it was a friend who took his life during the last week of Bible college, because he lived in such turmoil he could see no way forward. Most…

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ANTICHRIST… ooooooo!


I need to hear this again. It bears repeating. :)

Originally posted on myfullemptynest:

It’s funny how ‘The Anti-Christ” is often elevated to a fearful level and in some ways almost made out to be some type of super hero or super villain more likely.  The reality is that deceivers throughout history and even now are “Anti-Christ.”  Really, anyone that goes beyond the teachings of Christ.


With Christ, God’s word was made flesh and as Christians that is our highest calling.  Often an emotional ‘fix’ is desired or some ‘great’ gift like the ability to speak in tongues, heal or prophesy.  You may have one of these gifts or others, that does not mean you have a substantial relationship with Jesus.  That is not the litmus test.  You cannot judge if walking in truth by whether you have these gifts.  Whether or not you are living a Christlike life comes down to this: Are you walking in Love?  Anything that obscures this is not…

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Let’s Treat Children at the Border as Christ Would


Brilliant article.

Originally posted on TIME:

Unaccompanied children are fleeing the escalating violence in Honduras, El Salvador, and Guatemala and presenting themselves at the U.S. border–hoping to find safety from daily fears for their lives in these Central American countries. More than 50,000 have already come and their presence is now creating a political crisis in the United States.

The media has shown alarming pictures of hateful crowds of Americans blocking and threatening buses of young children being processed under U. S. laws. Imagine the fear in the hearts and minds of young children, all alone in a foreign culture, being screamed at by adults they don’t know in a language they don’t understand. Imagine the pain and fear of those families who tearfully sent their own children away from home to protect their lives.

Sadly, it’s not hard to imagine how our polarized political system is turning this complicated humanitarian disaster into another political and…

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Oh. This. Man.

34 years ago I committed to love and cherish this man. I still do. Though not perfectly. Somehow he doesn’t remember those imperfections.


34 years plus one day ago we began our adventure with the most amazing week on the beaches of South Carolina on Hilton Head Island.

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Too crazy. Too young. Still crazy.

So grateful for his unconditional love.

So grateful for our lives together.

So grateful for our 3 amazing children turned adults.

Looking forward.

(This all seems surreal.)

Happy Anniversary baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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